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Do you ever have those people that have to ask you a million questions about your life? “Are Michael and you going to try for a boy? Two girls?! Good luck!” Most of the time, I laugh and say something like “thanks, I’m going to need it” or “no more babies for us!” If I’m being honest here, I am one to ask a thousand questions also. I love getting to know people. I love to find out what people like and dislike, their struggles, and their dreams. I love knowledge. Or maybe I’m ridiculously nosy.
I’m going to take you back. I had kids YOUNG. The day I left for college to a different city, I found out I was pregnant. It was August 16th, 2009. I’ll never forget the fear and emotion of that day. August 16th is my late Nana’s birthday. I really held that fact close to me. Maybe it was a gift from her? Or was it a challenge? I didn’t really know what to think. I just knew for sure that I was scared and clueless. I had dreamt of going to college and getting my business degree in order to open up my own nightclub.
Pause for laughter.
To be completely real, I didn’t even want kids. I was 18. I was a child. I wasn’t really ever around babies growing up and didn’t really have the slightest knowledge of how to be a mother.
Looking back at that now, I feel so incredibly blessed to be given the gift of motherhood. There are so many women that struggle with infertility and I just want to hug and cry with them. If you fit that criteria, please know that I pray for you every night. Stay strong, and I’m sincerely hopeful that you will be given this gift soon.
I ended up finishing my semester and moved back home to be closer to Michael and my family. Boy was I lucky to have the most amazing boyfriend (now husband). If y’all only knew what that pregnancy was like for HIM. Sorry Michael. When Madison was born in April 2010, I felt a sense of overwhelming love. There is really no feeling of describing it. I felt pain (because, ouch) and I felt love. And 13 months later I was pregnant with Savanna and she was born in February of 2012. Again, I felt a sense of overwhelming love. After Savanna, I knew my heart was full. I knew that was it.
Fast forward to now. Michael and I get asked ALL OF THE TIME if we are going to try for a boy. No, no we are not. I’ll tell you why.
Because our two girls give us enough joy to make us the happiest people in the world
We decided to invest all of our love into these two girls. In our hearts, we feel like we can give them the best life with it just being the two of them. And we won’t have to buy a van! (No offense to minivan families, we hear they are great, but they aren’t our style) They are close in age with makes things a lot easier! They fall into some of the same age groups when it comes to sports, to make them on the same team, which is always a plus when it comes to scheduling. They CAN play together with the same kind of toys, it doesn’t mean they always will, but they can! That makes things great around Christmas because we really don’t NEED to label presents if we don’t have to because they both love the same toys. Madison is always trying to teach Savanna new things that she learns at school. They love to play student-teacher, which I actually adore because Savanna knew so much going into Pre-K. I genuinely think that they would be lost without each other, regardless on how much they argue.
Fun fact: Michael and I get asked almost daily if our kids are twins.
We are so excited to keep raising these girls and learning more and more everyday on how to be the best parents we can be. We want them to experience so many things and we are excited to help do that. We are taking them cross-country next year and we have so many trips planned in the future for them to experience more. I think Michael secretly loves being outnumbered in our house and I certainly get a kick out of it. We are making the best out of our little family. We never want our kids to feel like they had a terrible childhood. Having two kids, it’s not hard to afford sports for them which is such a blessing. Madison is in gymnastics and soccer at the moment and Savanna is in cheerleading and gymnastics. They love that they get to do these things and we love keeping them active! It’s the little things such as the happiness they have over activities, that make having only two kids, a blessing.
To the people with more than two kids, know that Michael and I are ridiculously jealous of your patience. There are some days where I feel defeated and I have to remind myself that if I feel this way, imagine what the 7th Heaven mom feels like. You guys are rockstars. All of us moms and dads are in this together, just trying to raise the best kids we can.